for Married, Dating, Cohabiting, Engaged and Reconciling Couples
ABOUT DIANE THURLOW . . .
Diane was a divorce and family mediator for nine years specializing in relationship, financial and custody aspects of divorce/separation. What began as a desire to help people bring peace and clarity to their lives became a nagging concern that adults' lives often become broken and their innocent children never fully recover. Judith Wallerstein originally stated in her unprecedented 25-year longitudinal study that children of divorce are resilient and most eventually do quite well. Her continuing research has shown this not to be true. Judith Wallerstein, Julia Lewis and Sandra Blakeslee, The Unexpected Legacy of Divorce (2000). She now believes many children of divorce have difficulties with self-confidence and relationships into their adulthood, further endangering the success of their own marriages.
One day while Diane was en route in her car, she heard a quote on the radio which was about to change her life. The quote was from Dante's The Inferno. The quote was "The lowest place in Hell is reserved for those who remain neutral in the face of a moral crisis." The role of a mediator is to be neutral. Diane rarely "felt" neutral about couples not having good relationship skills, splitting up, getting divorced, and breaking up their children's home. Diane decided there and then that she did not want to assist any more couples who had chosen to end their relationship and, where children were involved, break up their family. She only wanted to help couples who wished to learn how to be together more successfully.
Diane resigned from her career as divorce mediator. For years now Diane has been helping committed couples create informed, successful and lasting marriages.